Do less attractive people think the people they date (who also tend to be less attractive) delude themselves into thinking their dates are more physically attractive?
According to new research, the answer is “no.”You remember that website that used to be popular, HOTor NOT.com, which allows visitors to rate the attractiveness of random, anonymous photographs, right?
It is suggested that to determine attraction, both the personalities and the situation must be taken into account.
A team led by Leonard Lee (2008) from Columbia University recently looked into the question of whether our own attractiveness biases affect our perceptions of those we date using the site.That’s why the beautiful people in all inter-date and marry.That’s also why rich people tend to marry other rich people (sorry to dash your hopes there! Naturally, since our society places a great deal on a certain idea of physical attractiveness, such people are also more popular dates.They were asked to say whether they wanted to interact with each person in a short-term relationship — wonderfully described by the researchers as “arranging meetings purely for sex on an ad hoc basis” — OR a long-term relationship (a.k.a.let’s go to IKEA together and buy some bookshelves). They clearly showed that, in dating situations, people LOVE narcissists.Back in the naughties, when the idea was novel, speed dating events attracted large diverse crowds.Up for a laugh, people embraced the novelty, and tried it.Interpersonal attraction is the attraction between people which leads to friendships and to platonic or romantic relationships.Interpersonal attraction, the process, is distinct from perceptions of physical attractiveness, which involves views of what is and is not considered beautiful or attractive.It can be viewed as a force acting between two people that tends to draw them together and resist their separation.When measuring interpersonal attraction, one must refer to the qualities of the attracted as well as the qualities of the attractor to achieve predictive accuracy.