We French don’t have a dating process, with rules about what you can or can’t do at each specific date.
One of my most read posts happens to be ‘how to date a French man‘, and several of you have asked me to write something similar on French women. So brace yourself: here is my checkered advice on how to date French women.
No court, no romanticism, whatever happened to Ashton Kutcher’s spirit? Slowly I realized that I’d been fooled again by this idea of flawless America, replete with puritan mores.So before you allow yourself to be swept into a sea of ‘s, here are a few things you should expect.Don’t be surprised if a French man pushes for monogamy early.Finding love is a challenging quest even in your home country.Dating internationally will either make it more so or raise the chance to finally get the partner you've been looking for all along.Photo: Click Flash Photos / Nicki Varkevisser What I got from pop culture is that American people call “dating” the process of seeing someone that one is currently sexually attracted to and officially romantically involved with.From this it is understood that the important aspect of “seeing someone” revolves around “going on dates.” For example: to go have coffee, to go have food, to go to the movies. No, at least not in said movies, but that is rather an aftereffect of the MPAA.What might be considered romantic, attractive or polite in one culture might not be well received in another.To help you get a clear insight into the French way of dating and being in a relationship, here is some useful advice. Women need to dream before being caught up by the harsh reality of your life. We can be sometimes intense, and sometimes light-hearted. We want you to commit to us, and if you don’t we might emotionally blackmail you. We fight with our own weapons, and you don’t stand a chance. You are in for a passionate journey -now you are warned.3. One day, a British colleague of mine who had just had a baby told me that he and his wife were too tired to read at night ‘let alone do anything else’. Some guys feel compelled to tell us everything about their exes, their shared custody arrangements or even their rare genetic disease (which is why he needed a girl like me, because of my healthy genes -a true story). If we don’t know where to go for dinner, you need to be able to make a decision. We expect you to pay, or at least to suggest you will (I personally like sharing the bills but I find it nice when the guy suggests that he will pay, even if I don’t let him usually, because I am a modern woman).5. Not too kind, because for instance, if you start crying when we cry, it will make us feel ill-at-ease.